How to converse courageously

From Crossing the Sacred Sea [Cruzando el mar sagrado] by Nathan A. Strait

  1. () How to work with (almost) anyone: five questions for building the best possible relationships [i]
  2. () Loving someone with suicidal thoughts: what family, friends, and partners can say and do [i]
  3. () Engaging with difficult topics and emotional experiences in psychotherapy: a study of helpful therapist acts [p] [d]
  4. () Epistemic dimensions of gaslighting: peer-disagreement, self-trust, and epistemic injustice [d] [u]
  5. () How to nurse an oversharing hangover [u]
  6. () I never thought of it that way: how to have fearlessly curious conversations in dangerously divided times [i]
  7. () The neutrality trap: disrupting and connecting for social change [i]
  8. () Relational dialogue in emotion-focused therapy [p] [d]
  9. () How to talk to people who are angry or hostile [u]
  10. () Reducing exclusionary attitudes through interpersonal conversation: evidence from three field experiments [using non-judgmental exchange of narratives] [d]
  11. () Difficult conversations: navigating the tension between honesty and benevolence [p] [d]
  12. () 7 tips for talking to a loved one about their mental health [u]
  13. () Sociopolitical values: the neglected factor in culturally-competent psychotherapy [i] [d]
  14. () Why are we yelling?: the art of productive disagreement [i]
  15. () How to have impossible conversations: a very practical guide [i]
  16. () Stress-free small talk: how to master the art of conversation and take control of your social anxiety [i]
  17. () Time to talk: tips for talking about your mental health [u]
  18. () Building conflict resilience: it's not just about problem-solving [u]
  19. () 5 types of people who can ruin your life: identifying and dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, and other high-conflict personalities [i]
  20. () Standing at the edge: finding freedom where fear and courage meet [i]
  21. () Taking criticism while privileged: advice for dealing with criticism as a person of privilege in academe [u]
  22. () How to take offense: responding to microaggression [d]
  23. () Conversations gone awry: detecting early signs of conversational failure [i] [d] [u]
  24. () Conversational mapping: coaching others (and ourselves) to better have difficult conversations [u]
  25. () Disagreement as an opportunity, not a threat [book review of: Constructive controversy: theory, research, practice, by David W. Johnson] [d]
  26. () 'Tell me how that makes you feel': philosophy's reason/emotion divide and epistemic pushback in philosophy classrooms [d]
  27. Asaf Rolef Ben-Shaḥar & Rachel Shalit [ed] () When hurt remains: relational perspectives on therapeutic failure [i] [d]
  28. () From argumentative crisis to critical arguments: how to argue in the face of danger [i] [d]
  29. () If you don't know the answer, then that's your answer [u]
  30. () Difficult conversations [i] [d]
  31. () You have the right to remain innocent: what police officers tell their children about the Fifth Amendment [i]
  32. () Defusing an emotionally charged conversation with a colleague [u]
  33. () Free speech: ten principles for a connected world [i] [d]
  34. () Alternatives to blame, powerlessness, recriminations, and stuckness in highly charged and entrenched conflicts [u]
  35. () An everyone culture: becoming a deliberately developmental organization [i]
  36. () Dangerous speech and dangerous ideology: an integrated model for monitoring and prevention [d] [u]
  37. () Clinicians' strategies for managing their emotions during difficult healthcare conversations [p] [d]
  38. () Difficult dialogue between next of kin: a Brazilian perspective on obstacles to integration [d]
  39. () The heart of the fight: a couple's guide to 15 common fights, what they really mean, & how they can bring you closer [i]
  40. () How not to be Reviewer #2 [u]
  41. () Collaborative developmental action inquiry [i] [d]
  42. () The analyst's authenticity: 'if you see something, say something' [p] [d]
  43. () Get the truth: former CIA officers teach you how to persuade anyone to tell all [i]
  44. () Constructive controversy: theory, research, practice [i] [d]
  45. () Intellectual empathy: critical thinking for social justice [i] [d]
  46. () The conflict paradox: seven dilemmas at the core of disputes [i]
  47. () Cultivating intention (as we enter the fray): the skillful practice of embodying presence, awareness and purpose as action researchers [i] [d]
  48. () Getting to yes with yourself (and other worthy opponents) [i]
  49. () 'I'm not a social worker': an information service model for working with patrons in crisis [for librarians] [d] [j]
  50. () So, what's your proposal?: shifting high-conflict people from blaming to problem-solving in 30 seconds! [i]
  51. () Emotional change in international negotiation: analyzing the Camp David accords using cognitive–affective maps [d]
  52. () Making business personal [u]
  53. () Behavioral and emotional dynamics of two people struggling to reach consensus about a topic on which they disagree [p] [d]
  54. () Find out anything from anyone, anytime: secrets of calculated questioning from a veteran interrogator [i]
  55. () Therapeutic collaboration and resistance: describing the nature and quality of the therapeutic relationship within ambivalence events using the Therapeutic Collaboration Coding System [d]
  56. () Difficult conversations: talking with rather than talking at [d]
  57. () Thanks for the feedback: the science and art of receiving feedback (even when it is off-base, unfair, poorly delivered, and frankly, you're not in the mood) [i]
  58. () Invoking the authority of feelings as a strategic maneuver in family mealtime conversations [d]
  59. D. Justin Coates & Neal A. Tognazzini [ed] () Blame: its nature and norms [i] [d]
  60. () The customer service survival kit: what to say to defuse even the worst customer situations [i]
  61. () Conversations that get results and inspire collaboration: engage your team, your peers, and your manager to take action [i]
  62. () Silence is not golden: review of studies of couple interaction [d]
  63. () Dialogue & deliberation [i]
  64. () Interpersonal communication perspectives in hostage negotiation [d]
  65. () Refining expertise: how responsible engineers subvert environmental justice challenges [i] [d] [j]
  66. () The nature of psychological reactance revisited: a meta-analytic review [d]
  67. () Interpersonal power in the criminal system [u]
  68. () Action inquiry and the Boston Marathon bombings: unilateral vs. mutual power [u]
  69. Abraham W. Wolf, Marvin R. Goldfried, & J. Christopher Muran [ed] () Transforming negative reactions to clients: from frustration to compassion [i] [d]
  70. () Changing on the job: developing leaders for a complex world [i] [d]
  71. () Daring greatly: how the courage to be vulnerable transforms the way we live, love, parent, and lead [i]
  72. () Nothing to add: the role of White silence in racial discussions [u]
  73. () When friends deflect questions about sensitive information: questioners' cognitive complexity and explanations for friends' avoidance [d]
  74. () The costs and benefits of arguing: predicting the decision whether to engage or not [i] [d]
  75. () Conversations for creating star performers: go beyond the performance review to inspire excellence every day [i]
  76. () Help them grow or watch them go: career conversations employees want [i]
  77. () 'What are you going to do with that major?': colloquial speech and the meanings of work and education [d]
  78. () How to implement free, prior informed consent (FPIC) [u]
  79. () Life-changing conversations: 7 strategies for talking about what matters most [i]
  80. () Stressed by colleagues who disagree with you? [u]
  81. () Dissenting in reflective conversations: critical components of doing action research [d]
  82. () Speaking freely: my experiences in individual psychotherapies, group therapies, and growth groups [p] [d]
  83. () The blame game: how the hidden rules of credit and blame determine our success or failure [i]
  84. () We are all learning here: cycles of research and application in adult development [i] [d]
  85. () 'I think we should take this offline...': conversational patterns that undermine effective decision making in action learning sets [d]
  86. () Tacit knowledge structures in the negotiation process [i] [d]
  87. () Learning through deepening conversations: a key strategy of insight mediation [d]
  88. () What's happening in the coaching conversation with an executive at risk of derailing? [u]
  89. () Rethinking conflict: perspectives from the insight approach [d]
  90. () 'She's mean to me!': the shattering conclusion [u]
  91. () Achieving forgiveness and trust in postconflict societies: the importance of self-disclosure and empathy [i] [d]
  92. () Deliberation and diversity: perceptions of small group discussions by race and ethnicity [d]
  93. () Catalytic conversations: organizational communication and innovation [i] [d]
  94. () Facilitated dialogues with teachers in conflict-ridden areas: in search of pedagogical openings that move beyond the paralysing effects of perpetrator–victim narratives [d]
  95. () Students as learners and teachers: taking responsibility, transforming education, and redefining accountability [d] [j]
  96. () Self-disclosure in psychotherapy and recovery [i]
  97. () Roles, caring and learning to teach science [d]
  98. () Building a professional learning community at work: a guide to the first year [i]
  99. () Religion that heals, religion that harms: a guide for clinical practice [i]
  100. () The role of therapist self-disclosure in psychotherapy: a qualitative review [d]
  101. () Facilitating conflict transformation: mediator strategies for eliciting emotional communication in a workplace conflict [d]
  102. () 'Whose inquiry is this anyway?': money, power, reports, and collaborative inquiry [d]
  103. () Coping with control and manipulation: making the difference between being a target and becoming a victim [i]
  104. () Psychodynamic techniques: working with emotion in the therapeutic relationship [i]
  105. () Eavesdropping on happiness: well-being is related to having less small talk and more substantive conversations [d]
  106. () Answering patient questions about the role lifestyle factors play in cancer onset and recurrence [d]
  107. () Nice teams finish last: the secret to unleashing your team's maximum potential [i]
  108. () Bargaining with the devil: when to negotiate, when to fight [i]
  109. () Why argue?: towards a cost–benefit analysis of argumentation [d]
  110. () Dominance signals in debates [i] [d]
  111. () Stop overreacting: effective strategies for calming your emotions [i]
  112. () Partners in thought: working with unformulated experience, dissociation, and enactment [i] [d]
  113. () Keeping difficult situations from becoming difficult groups: dissenters need support, or the group risks going off track [i]
  114. () Having hard conversations [i]
  115. () Psychotherapy as a developmental process [i] [d]
  116. Andrea Bloomgarden & Rosemary B. Mennuti [ed] () Psychotherapist revealed: therapists speak about self-disclosure in psychotherapy [i]
  117. () The problems with blaming [i] [u]
  118. () The art of conversation: a guided tour of a neglected pleasure [i]
  119. () Conversations between anthropologists and economists [i] [j]
  120. () The four conversations: daily communication that gets results [i]
  121. Kenneth J. Gergen, Stuart M. Schrader, & Mary M. Gergen [ed] () Constructing worlds together: interpersonal communication as relational process [i]
  122. () The influence of diversity in clinical supervision: a framework for reflective conversations and questioning [d]
  123. () Immunity to change: how to overcome it and unlock potential in yourself and your organization [i]
  124. (/2022) What we say matters: practicing nonviolent communication [i]
  125. Maritza Montero & Christopher C. Sonn [ed] () Psychology of liberation: theory and applications [i]
  126. () On advocacy by environmental scientists: what, whether, why, and how [p] [d]
  127. () Sharing one's story: on the benefits of writing or talking about emotional experience [i] [d]
  128. () When rejection sensitivity matters: regulating dependence within daily interactions with family and friends [d]
  129. () I second that emotion!: on self-disclosure and its metaprocessing [i]
  130. () Self-disclosure as a turning point in psychotherapy [i]
  131. () Pain and defense versus grace and justice: the relational conflict and restoration model [d]
  132. () Coping through emotional approach: emerging evidence for the utility of processing and expressing emotions in responding to stressors [i] [d]
  133. () Self-deception and the therapist: an interpretative phenomenological analysis of the experiences and understandings of therapists working with clients they describe as self-deceptive [p] [d]
  134. () Communicating with Muslim parents: 'the four principles' are not as culturally neutral as suggested [d]
  135. () The three marriages: reimagining work, self and relationship [i]
  136. () Therapeutic movement and stuckness in family therapy [d]
  137. () The zen of helping: spiritual principles for mindful and open-hearted practice [i]
  138. () Time to try a little tenderness?: the detrimental effects of accountability when coupled with abusive supervision [d]
  139. () Bold jaguars and unsuspecting monkeys: the value of fearlessness in Cofán politics [d]
  140. () It's all your fault!: 12 tips for managing people who blame others for everything [i]
  141. () Hold me tight: seven conversations for a lifetime of love [i]
  142. () Narrators defend their side of the story metaphorically at troubled narrative junctions [d]
  143. () End-of-life care: guidelines for patient-centered communication [p] [u]
  144. () Expressing the unexpressed: self-disclosure as interactional achievement in the psychotherapy session [p]
  145. () Some like it hot: teaching strategies for managing tactical versus genuine anger in negotiations [d]
  146. () Conversational mindfulness [u]
  147. () Action inquiry: interweaving multiple qualities of attention for timely action [i] [d] [u]
  148. () Teaching teachers to just say 'know': reflections on drug education [d]
  149. () Toward psychologies of liberation [i] [d]
  150. () From spheres of civility to critical public spheres: democracy and citizenship in the big house (Part I) [j]
  151. () From spheres of civility to critical public spheres: democracy and citizenship in the big house (Part II) [j]
  152. () I thought it was just me, but it isn't: telling the truth about perfectionism, inadequacy, and power [or: I thought it was just me (but it isn't): making the journey from 'what will people think?' to 'I am enough'] [i]
  153. () Behind the mask: coaching through deep interpersonal communication [i] [d]
  154. (/2017) Just culture: restoring trust and accountability in your organization [or: Just culture: balancing safety and accountability] [i] [d]
  155. () Recognizing the passion in deliberation: toward a more democratic theory of deliberative democracy [d] [j]
  156. () There's no such thing as public speaking: making any presentation or speech as persuasive as a one-on-one conversation [i]
  157. () Join the conversation: how to engage marketing-weary consumers with the power of community, dialogue, and partnership [i]
  158. () Conflict dialogue: working with layers of meaning for productive relationships [i] [d]
  159. () The power of story: rewrite your destiny in business and in life [i]
  160. () How to improve your marriage without talking about it: finding love beyond words [i]
  161. () Negotiation genius: how to overcome obstacles and achieve brilliant results at the bargaining table and beyond [i]
  162. () The little book of dialogue for difficult subjects: a practical, hands-on guide [i]
  163. () Small talk—big cure!: talking your way to a better life [i]
  164. (/2015) Mistakes were made (but not by me): why we justify foolish beliefs, bad decisions, and hurtful acts [i]
  165. () The power of a positive No: how to say No and still get to Yes [i]
  166. () Mindful relating: exploring mindfulness and emotion repertoires in intimate relationships [d]
  167. () Don't just do something, stand there!: ten principles for leading meetings that matter [i]
  168. () Human factors in project management: concepts, tools, and techniques for inspiring teamwork and motivation [i]
  169. () Consensus through conversation: how to achieve high-commitment decisions [i]
  170. () Self-disclosure in psychotherapy [i]
  171. () Leading through conflict: how successful leaders transform differences into opportunities [i]
  172. (/2007) Liderazgo ante la adversidad: cómo los buenos líderes transforman los conflictos en oportunidades [i]
  173. Mike Green, John O'Brien, Henry Moore, Gordon Cunningham, & John McKnight [ed] (/2009) When people care enough to act: ABCD in action [i]
  174. () Fostering dialogue across divides: a nuts and bolts guide from the Public Conversations Project [o]
  175. () Counseling as a practice of ethics: some implications for therapeutic education [d]
  176. () Courageous conversations about race: a field guide for achieving equity in schools [i]
  177. (/2012) The people solutions sourcebook [i]
  178. () Sensemaking and the distortion of critical upward communication in organizations [d]
  179. () Avoiding iatrogenic harm to patient and family while discussing goals of care near the end of life [d]
  180. () Rhetoric and anger [j]
  181. () Struggling with the fragility of life: a relational-narrative approach to ethics in palliative nursing [p] [d]
  182. () Conversation as experiential learning [d]
  183. () Interviewing and diagnostic exercises for clinical and counseling skills building [i] [d]
  184. () Divided over diversity: political discourse in a Chicago neighborhood [d]
  185. () Waking up together: intimate partnership on the spiritual path [i]
  186. () Moving beyond the comfort zone in psychotherapy [i]
  187. () The World Café: shaping our futures through conversations that matter [i]
  188. () Emotion-focused therapy for depression [i] [d]
  189. () Embracing confusion: what leaders do when they don't know what to do [d]
  190. () The gift of self: the art of transparent facilitation [i]
  191. () Respect: a girl's guide to getting respect and dealing when your line is crossed [i]
  192. Malcolm Miles [ed] () New practices, new pedagogies: a reader [i]
  193. (/2013) Crucial accountability: tools for resolving violated expectations, broken commitments, and bad behavior [i]
  194. () Taking conversation, dialogue, and therapy public [d]
  195. () The four things that matter most: a book about living [i]
  196. () First impressions: what you don't know about how others see you [i]
  197. () Talking with terminally ill patients and their caregivers about death, dying, and bereavement: is it stressful? Is it helpful? [d]
  198. () The thin book of naming elephants: how to surface undiscussables for greater organizational success [i]
  199. () Bringing Zen practice home [d] [j]
  200. () Choice words: how our language affects children's learning [i]
  201. () Confrontations with power: moving beyond the 'tyranny of safety' in participation [i]
  202. Ivan Nyklíček, Lydia Temoshok, & Ad J. J. M. Vingerhoets [ed] () Emotional expression and health: advances in theory, assessment and clinical applications [i] [d]
  203. () From consent to mutual inquiry [d]
  204. () Moving beyond the blame game: toward a discursive approach to negotiating conflict within couple relationships [d]
  205. () Action inquiry: the secret of timely and transforming leadership [i]
  206. () From discord to dialogue: internal voices and the reorganization of the self in process-experiential therapy [i]
  207. () A life full of learning [d]
  208. () Emotional support skills [i] [d]
  209. () Managing interpersonal conflict: a model of events related to strategic choices [i] [d]
  210. () Persuasion as a social skill [i] [d]
  211. John O. Greene & Brant Raney Burleson [ed] () Handbook of communication and social interaction skills [i] [d]
  212. () Improvised dialogues: emergence and creativity in conversation [i]
  213. () Right risk: 10 powerful principles for taking giant leaps with your life [i]
  214. (/2014) The worst is over: what to say when every moment counts [i]
  215. () Shame: the elephant in the room [d]
  216. () Mentor manager, mentor parent: how to develop responsible people and build successful relationships at work and at home [i]
  217. (/2012) Crucial conversations: tools for talking when stakes are high [i]
  218. () Advancing a political ecology of global environmental discourses [d]
  219. () Being upright: Zen meditation and the bodhisattva precepts [i]
  220. () Getting real: the ten truth skills you need to live an authentic life [i]
  221. () Working with anger [i]
  222. () Getting over getting mad: positive ways to manage anger in your most important relationships [i]
  223. () Anger: wisdom for cooling the flames [i]
  224. () How the way we talk can change the way we work: seven languages for transformation [i]
  225. () Creating conversations: improvisation in everyday discourse [i]
  226. () Crossing the unknown sea: work as a pilgrimage of identity [i]
  227. () One step further in assessing how interpretations influence the process of psychotherapy [d]
  228. () Reaching for higher ground in conflict resolution: tools for powerful groups and communities [i]
  229. (/2014) Constructive controversy: the value of intellectual opposition [i]
  230. () Creating harmonious relationships: a practical guide to the power of true empathy [i]
  231. () Dangerous emotions [i]
  232. () The shift in thinking to customer intimacy [i]
  233. () New ways of thinking about environmentalism: denial and the process of moral exclusion in environmental conflict [d]
  234. () Rhetorical power, accountability and conflict in committees: an argumentation approach [d]
  235. () The art of focused conversation: 100 ways to access group wisdom in the workplace [i]
  236. () Alcanzar la paz: diez caminos para resolver conflictos en la casa, el trabajo y el mundo [i]
  237. () Fear of intimacy [i]
  238. () Bold analysis and associative dialogue: freedom and continuity in analytic discourse [d]
  239. () Powerful conversations: how high-impact leaders communicate [i]
  240. () Dialogue and the art of thinking together: a pioneering approach to communicating in business and in life [i]
  241. () Have you ever?: questions about you, your friends, and your world [i]
  242. () A safe place for dangerous truths: using dialogue to overcome fear & distrust at work [i]
  243. () Difficult conversations: how to discuss what matters most [i]
  244. (/2000) The third side: why we fight and how we can stop [or: Getting to peace: transforming conflict at home, at work, and in the world] [i]
  245. Frédérique Apffel-Marglin [ed] () The spirit of regeneration: Andean culture confronting Western notions of development [i]
  246. () Talking out of turn: notes on participation, learning and action in REFLECT [u]
  247. () Learning in relationship: foundation for personal and professional success [i]
  248. () Resolving conflicts among self-evaluative motives: positive experiences as a resource for overcoming defensiveness [d]
  249. () A developmental perspective on psychotherapy process, psychotherapists' expertise, and 'meaning-making conflict' within therapeutic relationships: part II: dialectical thinking and psychotherapeutic expertise: implications for training psychotherapists and protecting clients from 'theoretical abuse' [d] [u]
  250. () A developmental perspective on psychotherapy process, psychotherapists' expertise, and 'meaning-making conflict' within therapeutic relationships: part I: a dialectical-constructivist view of human development, psychotherapy, and the dynamics of meaning-making conflict within therapeutic relationships [d]
  251. () An examination of the constraints on mutual inquiry in a participatory action research project [d]
  252. () The public dimension of scientific controversies [d]
  253. () My eye, your face: a conversation [i]
  254. () Leadership and the art of conversation: conversation as a management tool [i]
  255. () The healing connection: how women form relationships in therapy and in life [i]
  256. (/2008) A complaint is a gift: recovering customer loyalty when things go wrong [i]
  257. (/2005) The fine art of small talk: how to start a conversation, keep it going, build networking skills, and leave a positive impression [i]
  258. (/1998) Be heard now!: tap into your inner speaker and communicate with ease [i]
  259. () The power of empathic exploration: a process-experiential/gestalt perspective on the case of Jim Brown [i]
  260. () The tension between empathy and assertiveness [d]
  261. Kenneth Yeager & Albert R. Roberts [ed] (/2015) Crisis intervention handbook: assessment, treatment, and research [i]
  262. () Can we talk?: on the elusiveness of dialogue [d]
  263. (/2002) Repacking your bags: lighten your load for the rest of your life [i]
  264. () Nonabandonment: a central obligation for physicians [d]
  265. () Working the shadow side: a guide to positive behind-the-scenes management [i]
  266. () The community of those who have nothing in common [i]
  267. () Intimacy & mission: intentional community as crucible for radical discipleship [i]
  268. () Talking on the water: conversations about nature and creativity [i]
  269. Patricia E. Blumenreich & Susan Lewis [ed] () Managing the violent patient: a clinician's guide [i]
  270. () Silencing a people: the destruction of civil society in Haiti [i]
  271. () Tailoring the therapeutic relationship, or being an authentic chameleon [d]
  272. () Questions about questions: situating the therapist's curiosity in front of the family [i]
  273. () How to deal with difficult people [i]
  274. (/2011) Therapeutic communication: knowing what to say when [i]
  275. () Competence, courage, and change: an approach to family therapy [i]
  276. () Values at work: transforming workplace values with compassion [u]
  277. () Attachment styles and patterns of self-disclosure [d]
  278. (/2007) Getting past no: negotiating in difficult situations [i]
  279. () The loss of wisdom [i] [d]
  280. () Active talk: the use of discussion in learning [i]
  281. (/1997) Opening up: the healing power of expressing emotions [i]
  282. (/1989) Getting together: building relationships as we negotiate [i]
  283. (/2000) Prescription for anger: coping with angry feelings and angry people [i]
  284. () Holding back: why we hide the truth about ourselves [i]
  285. (/2003) Playfulness, 'world'-travelling, and loving perception [i]
  286. (/2018) Asserting and confronting [i] [d]
  287. () Dialectical thinking and adult development [i]
  288. (/2001) How to start a conversation and make friends [i]
  289. () Coping with crisis: understanding and helping people in need [i]
  290. () Telling it like it isn't: language misuse & malpractice, what we can do about it [i]
  291. (/2011) Getting to yes: negotiating agreement without giving in [i]
  292. () Straight talk: a new way to get closer to others by saying what you really mean [i]
  293. (/1986) People skills: how to assert yourself, listen to others, and resolve conflicts [i]
  294. (/2008) Your perfect right: assertiveness and equality in your life and relationships [i]
  295. (/2003) Teacher effectiveness training: the program proven to help teachers bring out the best in students of all ages [i]
  296. (/2000) Parent effectiveness training: the proven program for raising responsible children [i]
  297. (/1993) The infinite conversation [i]
  298. (/1971) Self-disclosure: an experimental analysis of the transparent self [i]
  299. () Pointing the way: collected essays [o] [u]
  300. (/1996) The importance of living [i]

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